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JAFO's avatar

"I don't know anyone who hates trans people." I do, Ken. Most of them hate themselves. You can tell because they almost never give you the sense they're happy people. Not around others, not with themselves - not even around each other. "Drama Queen" sadly, isn't a label too far in most cases.

I work with fellow who "trans'd", including the surgery. He's one of the smartest people I've ever met.

Yet, even after the surgery and constant hormonal maintenance required, he's not 'happier' or even 'as happy' as a "woman" than before. It's also clear there's some strong regret for having gone under the knife. We have mutual friends who speak with him about it. Sure, I respect him enough to address him/her by his preferred name (he legally changed it to a unisex name). But when discussing his work with him and others I simply do not use pronouns and instead call him by his new name. It's no big deal to anyone at work although some of the ladies who don't know "Chris" (not his/her real or changed name) wonder why that man wearing a dress uses the womens restroom. Once they're brought up to date, they're 'meh' about it, too.

"Chris" does not push or demand in any sense that others 'accept' the transition. He/She simply wants to continue working as if nothing has changed. Everyone at work figures, "Hey, if that floats your boat, then we're happy for you."

Like you, though, I've never met someone who wants to harm a 'trans' person in any way. We can regret they feel that way about themself, but only for a short time. Like people with any other mental disassociation with reality, we can wish them well, hope they seek professional treatment and demand they don't harm others during their discovery/journey. At the same time they need to be forcefully reminded NO ONE is required to participate in their self delusion - and for g-d's sake take Pink Floyd's advice and "Leave them kids alone!".

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Ned Smith's avatar

This is really a perplexing article, from the part where you said "Canada ... scored a fair bit higher than most on issues of trans rights:" and then included a graphic that had nothing to do with trans people or trans rights, to the part where you lament about how fixated people are on trans issues: "Canadians tend to feel there is a media fixation with transgender issues that give this subject “too much attention”... I had a good long laugh at that one.

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